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TOP 10 GUIDELINES FOR A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP
1. OWN THAT YOURSELF
Self-acceptance is a trait of a healthy relationship. If one party loves himself enough to admit that he’s wrong, then that is the person who will express humility and learn from mistakes. In healthy relationships, both partners are motivated to be better, to improve. A partner who values self-acceptance is NOT prone to underestimate or disrespect the desires of his or her partner. This is the value to look for in a healthy relationship. If a partner doesn’t have self-acceptance, he or she is less likely to work on the problem.
2. A PERFECTLY THOUGHT OUT PLAN
Think through what you want to accomplish and then work out a plan to get there. The goal should be attainable and what you bring to the table should be what you want your partner to benefit from as well. Have something that the person you love likes to talk about that you can do together. Implement your plan together.
3. HAVE CHOICES
Sit down with your partner and discuss your desires for the future and present your opinions. Everyone has different passions. Choose what’s most important to you and what you like to do together.
4. ONE-ON-ONE TIME
Time together should be quality time. If you’re feeling resentful or distracted, why not plan some individual time? You can have plenty of spontaneity for this, but making time for yourselves shouldn’t be just because you can. Communication and communication only means you’re accountable to your partner.
5. FOCUS ON WHAT IS
It’s important for both partners to remember to have a single, singular focus. Each person should not be worried about accomplishing the other’s goals or focused on one’s spouse when only one is with the other. By giving 100% to your partner, you will be able to watch one another from a much greater distance.
6. EMPOWER YOUR SPOUSE
If you feel as though your spouse is trying to destroy you or walk all over you, it can be traumatic. It can also undermine your belief in your own self-worth. You’re not powerless. Take control of the relationship by empowering your spouse to do what it takes to improve or perhaps make the decision you’d like them to make.
7. EMPOWER YOUR SELF-ESTEEM
Self-esteem means believing in yourself. One of the best ways to feel good about yourself is to listen to yourself and allow your partner to do the same.
8. LOOK FOR THINGS THAT ARE GOOD ABOUT YOUR SELF
Your self-esteem comes from seeing the good things about yourself. If your spouse’s acting out or you’re self-critical, ask yourself what’s working for you and what’s not. Then see if you can bring that into the relationship.
9. MAKE TIME FOR THE SEXUAL COUPLE TIME
Where you feel loved, valued and supported is always a good place to begin. Ask each other if this is something you want in your relationship. What’s on your wish list?
10. KEEP CONNECTED
Communication is not the same as 24/7. Try not to always be in front of your laptop. Often in the beginning of a relationship you want to go out and socialize and to be with other people, but you don’t want the people to know that you’re hurting. Some day you will get so busy, frustrated and so busy that you can’t figure out what to do with your time. Keeping connected in other ways, like spending time with your spouse outside of your relationship, is good.