Some people love the infomercial where Ryan Seacrest told us that in America, one in four people will marry later in life, because “as people get older, they can see the value of other’s opinions.”
Sounding like he was listing all of the people who said they used that snotty, vague line in the “Remember the Time…?” trailer, he said, “Now get married. You’ll never have such an opportunity again, so don’t waste it.”
Seacrest uttered the first of a series of nuggets that ranged from romantic to scientific. They were all part of the YourIdeaOnline.com: The Ideas Everyone Will Convinced You Are Bad At Daily Program, which the talk show host presented as the answer to anyone who was stuck at home “sad, confused, or wishing he or she had invented the self-cancelling app app that got rid of rainy days.”
But as pointed out by Ann Marie Damon on Dating in the Age of Blackbirds blog, all the offerings were “just one step away from moronic, snazzy, or downright creepy.”
A few of the other junk:
• Write your own wedding invitations
• Create your own candy bar recipe
• Be an overweight dog trainer
• Eat with a spoon, instead of a fork
• Perform a lesson in infinity mathematics
• Learn personal branding strategies from the 17th century
• Become a vegetarian
• Walk on a treadmill backward
The most problematic of all, however, was the verdict on whether the key to romantic connection is age-related.
The digital reality TV show: Searching for Love with IHeartRadio’s Ryan Seacrest hit The E! Network this week, and I watched it.
“Age Gap: Is It Nothing but a Number in Relationships?” asked the promo, showing the host asking some young, attractive people what they think about the idea of having a union earlier in life.
Seacrest asked a guy: “You think about marriage. You think about your family? What’s the ideal age?”
The young man said 31, but also “a lot younger.”
Seacrest then asked a woman: “Are you married?”
The young woman said she was, but “I was a teenager in my 20s. It’s different. It’s like, you grow up.”
Seacrest then told a woman: “Some people complain. Some people love it. Some people are like, it would be boring. But what I do find interesting is that people actually come up to me and say, ‘I can’t believe I’m not married.’ And I’m like, ‘Are you serious? You’re not married! You don’t like the sex?’ But I keep hearing it. It’s great. We’re getting the word out to younger people.”
Damon was stunned by that final, final answer: “…and they don’t even get that it’s not necessarily better or worse.”
Gee, Ryan. You appear to be saying that many older people don’t like sex and hate to have sex, whereas lots of young people enjoy a good romp once in a while.
And the post date talk that matters is not about romance but habits of the heart — preferably those patterns established by baby-boomers of yore, which were common to many (most?) young people back then.
Seacrest, however,”has got no idea of the baggage that undergirds the age gap of old. In fact, he might be all wrong about it.”
Here’s a tidbit about why you might not want to grow old alone: Just the other night, someone asked me at a party if I would get married before the age of 60. I said no, though I have a high degree of self-confidence in that answer.
So, the question was not a reflection of your age, but of your emotional readiness.
Damon, an expert on dating from the investment stage of life to the dating stage, simply disagreed. She wrote: “The age gap is coldly calculated. It is a ruse to assert that the young person has an advantage, based on age. Some people, (and possibly some of the young people being pitched as options for you), consider it real love at first sight. Or maybe it’s just materialized peer pressure to live up