That hot date turned out to be a ghost

Rae says,

I went on a date with a man once, and it happened the same week he was married.

I was with him in the food and beverage area at an arts festival in downtown Detroit.

While at a booth, a couple of tables away from us, a couple from Detroit Tigers baseball told us they had gotten married that very week.

That was a marriage.

We sat next to each other at the booth for about five minutes.

Then a crew of guys came and asked us if we wanted to dance. We politely declined.

After that incident, I haven’t had a date with a black woman since.


Seems like there’s a misconception that black men don’t want women that are not theirs.

Most guys respect you for who you are, and they want to get to know you better.

Ladies, if you’re not “one of the boys,” don’t be too hard on them.

They have a lifestyle they live. You are so much cooler if you can relate to those lifestyle choices than if you just go along with the crowd.

Add to that the misconception that “women don’t like it,” you won’t meet a decent man because of your man.

At the end of the day, we’re all grown people. Dating doesn’t have to be one-sided.

I get it, dating is hard.

Why do so many people feel the need to make it harder for themselves?

Talk to my sister and her girlfriends, especially black women, and you’ll see they don’t understand men’s culture.

We go to nightclubs, party, and do what every other woman would do.

We’re taking a stand and telling you who you are, not who you think you are.

Say you want to go to a bar, but your friend says “No” because you “don’t know a good selection of men,” tell them to go, and you’ll be laughing tomorrow.

And don’t be ashamed of being ambitious.

I like a woman that’s interesting. In a sporty way.

I do like a black woman who’s confident in herself, does what she wants, and is a stay-at-home mom or wife who likes to entertain.

I believe in love at first sight.


Well, Rae is probably going to have to drive for me to the next goal, but she isn’t shutting down in a meeting.

She did mention a few nice qualities that could make it a good date.

Her second thought was you might make more money if you date a black woman.

“Black people are known for always being conservative. You always make a lot of money.

You are probably the best at networking.”

Do I think a black woman should date a white man because of money, they’re just more in tune with your lifestyle?

No, but you can’t blame a guy because he’s just following the way society says it should be.

Kell says,

If Rae wants to date a white man, then why not ask her out?

I think the question she’s asking isn’t, “Should I ask my girlfriend out?” but rather, “Should I be checking out his pickup line?”

Especially if she had the conversation with her sister to encourage her to ask her out first.

In all seriousness, I don’t want to date a black man because he thinks a black woman is more in tune with his lifestyle.

If they can find common ground for the betterment of their relationship, then that’s a date to me.


Rae does need to go check out her own interview for more facts.

I find it very unfortunate that this article was taken out of context to suit a personal vendetta.

Whether you believe it or not, men are marrying black women of all nationalities.

Kell says it’s also very unhealthy for a black woman to date black men that won’t get it if she doesn’t do the same.

For me, a friend of mine was married to a white man for 3.5 years and still remained the most loyal friend.


I disagree with this assumption.

Follow your intuition and be who you are. Do what you want to do.

This common thread is where our points of disagreement are.

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