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Post-breakup advice from a dating expert

Dating’s in general isn’t great.

But there are some bright spots, such as the opportunity to meet and hook up with great people.

I remember, as a teen, having very little idea of what I wanted. Every time I’d go on a date, I was confused by what he was wearing and what seemed real to me. I knew I wanted to date someone, but I didn’t know where to start. I asked my girlfriends what they needed to do to meet someone. Everyone of them had advice: try a date night; go out on a weekend; or “get out of town” once a month.

At the time, I went to an all-girls private school and my friends were just out of high school and entering their 20s. I really didn’t have any time or social interest to travel out of town. So I chose to go to a high school party with my friends, where that one party ended up seeping itself into other parts of our lives. So, yes, I’m still trying to get out of town every other month.

I love to travel. I can go months without a trip, but I have a very long history of vacations and adventures. For me, vacations meant spending time in the resort, or on a cruise, or up in the mountains. For the most part, I’ve been lucky enough to go to these places, whether for holidays or when I just wanted to do something different from everyone else. But the things I’m doing outside of vacation are also really important to me.

Today, I’m on the ride of my life. I have been very fortunate to work on many different and very interesting projects over the years. One is called Love Awake, an online dating company, founded back in the late 1990s with one co-founder. We have six people on staff now and just moved our headquarters to Philadelphia, which is where I live.

I wanted to ask three things on this blog that I really think are important for any woman, especially one who just went through a breakup, to remember.

Go out on a date.

I’m not saying that you need to be old and tanned and clear of acne. Just go. Date somebody with a sense of humor.

Don’t be afraid to seek out a decent, honest person. It’s not always easy to get good people to talk to. But at the end of the day, you’ll be relieved to know that you can really care about another person. Just remember to be a good friend. One thing I’ve learned during this breakup thing is to just take my time — take a breath, be patient. Get out and about. Go to a party. Go to a party. Go to a party. Some people may say you’re doing something wrong, but I can’t think of any reason not to do that.

Taking a short break from dating is a great time to explore something new. You might want to work out more, read more or just stay home and do something nice for yourself. I’m not saying I’m OK not dating right now, but I’m trying not to judge myself or think about my “fair share.” If I’m interested in a guy, I’ll be interested. So now is a great time to do some dating.

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